Mindfully Moody | Highest Self, Manifestation, Dating Advice & Feminine Energy
Welcome to Mindfully Moody, a transformative space where self-discovery, spiritual exploration, and personal growth come together. We, Hannah Andersen and Sara Swanson, are best friends navigating our spiritual journeys and authentically sharing our experiences along the way. Our podcast was born from our shared love of life’s flow—the highs, the lows, and the magic found in between. We’re here to inspire you to live a more conscious, fulfilled, and aligned life.
Podcast Topics we cover:
How to become your highest self
How to live an aligned life
How to date intentionally
How to quit your job
Spiritual Awakening
How to be in your feminine energy
How to manifest
At Mindfully Moody, we dive deep into powerful topics like self-love, healing past wounds, and embracing your true, authentic self. We explore all things spirituality, from manifestation to energy work, and how to tap into your divine feminine energy for a more balanced life. Each episode is crafted to provide real-life stories and tools that resonate with our listeners, designed to help you in your journey to self-growth and empowerment.
We explore how to create meaningful relationships, from dating and romantic connections to friendships that nourish your soul. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term partnership, our discussions on relationships focus on aligning your values, discovering true freedom within yourself, and finding love that supports your highest self. We know from experience that dating can be challenging in today’s world, but it can also be a powerful tool for growth and self-discovery. Join us as we talk about navigating the complexities of modern dating, learning to listen to your intuition, and finding a relationship that truly aligns with your life’s purpose.
Living an aligned life means finding true freedom within yourself and embracing the things that bring you the most joy, peace, and fulfillment. We share stories of how we broke free from limiting beliefs, self-doubt, and toxic relationships, and found freedom in building the life we desire. You’ll hear our personal transformations, from overcoming childhood trauma and navigating divorce to creating thriving businesses aligned with our passions.
We also dive into mindfulness practices that guide us in living fully in the present moment, helping you create a life that feels authentic to your soul. Topics like mindfulness, meditation, journaling, and breathwork offer powerful tools for healing and reconnecting with your inner wisdom. These practices are key to creating emotional resilience and aligning with your true desires.
If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by the pressures of life, career, and relationships, this podcast is your guide to realigning with your purpose and reclaiming your power. We explore ways to overcome burnout, manage stress, and achieve harmony between your personal and professional life. For the female entrepreneurs and creatives, we offer insights into balancing your masculine and feminine energy so you can achieve success without sacrificing your well-being.
Our episodes are infused with practical advice and tangible action steps, helping you make small shifts that lead to big changes in your life. We’re here to support you in your journey of personal transformation, offering our experiences as a roadmap for you to live a life that is more intentional, fulfilled, and joyful.
We release new episodes every Monday morning, so start your week with us as we dive into the soul-nourishing work of self-discovery, love, and transformation.
With light and love,
Hannah & Sara
Mindfully Moody | Highest Self, Manifestation, Dating Advice & Feminine Energy
137: Why Core Values Matter for Lasting Relationships + Partnerships
In this episode of Mindfully Moody, we're diving into the heart of what makes relationships truly flourish—core values! Ever wonder why some relationships just click while others feel like a constant struggle? It’s all about aligning on the things that matter most.
We are both in different relationship phases in our life, Sara is married, Hannah is single and dating in Austin, so we both have unique perspectives to this!
Have you ever been so swept off your feet that you missed the warning signs? Well, we've been there, too. We both share her own story of how love and attention can sometimes cloud our judgment, leading us to overlook the importance of aligning values with our partner. Spoiler alert: it didn’t end well. But, as they say, every experience is a lesson, and these lessons showed us the critical role of having common values in a relationship.
We’ll dive deep into how core values are formed—whether through the influence of our parents, life experiences, or the journey of self-discovery. Knowing your values is like having a compass that guides you in relationships, helping you avoid getting lost in the fog of infatuation. But here’s the kicker: before you can expect someone else to match your values, you’ve got to make sure you’re living up to them yourself. Hannah talks about taking radical responsibility—because when you’re clear on what you stand for, you attract the kind of love that aligns with who you truly are.
From understanding the importance of a growth mindset, loyalty, and emotional security to embracing playfulness and gratitude, this episode is a roadmap to creating relationships that stand the test of time. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term partnership, you’ll walk away with practical insights and a fresh perspective on what really makes love last. Tune in and let’s get real about why core values matter!
xoxo,
Sara & Hannah
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What is up? Mindfully Moody besties, it's Hannah and I'm joined by my best friend and co-host, sarah, and we are so excited to have you on another episode of Mindfully Moody. We are so appreciative of all the love and support that you guys are showing us and we are just excited to be here another week back on the pod. It's so fun to do this. A couple updates here. If you are not subscribed to our podcast, you can go ahead and subscribe on Apple and Spotify and we would really really really freaking love you and appreciate you so much. We already do, of course, but if you dropped us a review, it would really help us grow this podcast, reach more people and help us impact the world with our love and our voices. So please go and leave a review, show us some love, and we might just send you a little gift if you do that. So thank you guys for popping in and let's get into the episode. Let's jump right in.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm excited for this topic because I feel like it weaves in where both of us are in our lives right now, even though we're in different relationship places. It's like super interesting to see. Okay, what is my thoughts on this versus yours. So if you are new to the podcast, maybe you don't know I recently got Mm. Hmm, I'm a wifey now.
Speaker 2:So, and Hannah is in her dating era. Ok, she is out here dating in Austin, meeting the men, experiencing different things, and so we have a lot of thoughts on this topic, which is about common values in a relationship, and this is something that I feel like a lot of people skip by. Like, I think about younger version of myself. I'm like, first of all, what's a value A? What Can you give me a description of what that means? And, second of all, I wasn't looking for guys that had common values with me. I was just looking for a guy that I thought was hot.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so this is like very, very important to have a conversation about, and I wish that I would have thought about this and discussed about what values actually were important to me earlier on in my life, because I think it would have saved me from a lot of heartbreak. So, yeah, let's get into it. I would have saved me from a lot of heartbreak, so, yeah, let's get into it. I feel like that's actually a good place to start, like when we haven't been in relationships or we have common values with people, and how that actually affects the relationship and our happiness.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think as people are younger, you don't know yourself as much, so maybe you aren't as clear on what is really actually important to you in a relationship, right, and sometimes you have to go through the crap to figure out oh actually you really value that, or that person didn't give me that at all, and like there's a misalignment in that connection, right.
Speaker 1:And I think as we're raised, right Like we probably pick up on values from our family that we want to carry into our relationship, but also we don't really know ourselves that well. So I think it's the test of the relationship for us to discover what is important to us. And, like you said, when I was dating, I was looking for someone who was fun, hot, that would give me validation, not now, but like back in the day, like whatever 10 years ago, five years ago, and it's like the values of having someone who is really good at communicating and someone who is growth oriented those weren't really like in the forefront of my mind because I was focused on just getting that first step of understanding how to like date and like be in a relationship and like get attention and like all of that. So when you aren't exactly clear on what your values are. I think that a lot of people can be blinded by love Like they're not looking at yeah, like quoteunquote blinded, but
Speaker 1:yeah right, lust, but people could experience this lust or love feeling that feels really overwhelming and it makes them be like, oh my gosh, this is my person. Like I'm so happy I found them and then later to come and find out that, like, actually we have nothing in common, like that was just like attention and emotions that I was given that made me feel really good about myself and that made me feel like I had this connection, right. But then time passes and you're like what do I actually really have in common with this person? Do we have the same vision in our life? Do we have the same 10 year plan, right? Do we both want to have kids?
Speaker 1:Is communication valuable? Is growth Like? How does that person see you know living their life? Like, do they want to live a healthy life? And I think that's very common for people is to ignore the you know like values and then really just go follow that feeling, which can sometimes get you in a little bit of a sticky situation, which can sometimes get you in a little bit of a sticky situation.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely. And I think back to the younger version of me too, and I just always had this idea, like, no matter what, the guy that I was dating would say like, oh, oh, they'll just change. Yeah, you know, like they don't want kids. Like you know they could change that their mind on that. Like that's, what would happen to me when I was dating in my early and mid 20s was that I would continue to be with and date men who had such clear misalignments with me from day one. But because I wasn't able to stand in my power and really be sovereign in what my values were, I couldn't really make any decisions based off of it. Right, because it was like, oh well, yeah, he doesn't want to have kids, or oh, he's not respecting me, how about that?
Speaker 2:That was a misalignment in every single relationship I've ever been in before my marriage. You know, oh, he's not respecting me, that's okay. You know he'll change, or I don't feel worthy enough to be respected, even though respect is something that I would desire in a relationship. So there are all these different layers to, like you can have your set of values, but then it's also do you feel worthy of having those set of values in a relationship. And how does that actually translate to happening in a relationship and following through making sure that the person that you're with is actually in alignment with those values? Because, let's be real, we get into it with a hot guy and then all of a sudden, even in your 30s, you're like what values?
Speaker 2:still you know like it's still like you can get like confused.
Speaker 1:So I think that this is something just to really ground back into yeah, I think that this is also like a big take on intentional dating and it takes time to understand someone's that true, like core life values. And I think it can be challenging in dating because it's like you're just trying to scratch the surface in the first couple of dates, right, like, what do they do? Do they have friends? We're kind of like starting to check off these boxes of like you know, are they happy in their life, like these things. And then it's like you need more time to understand what someone's values truly are by asking them deeper, like having deeper questions, vulnerable experience with experiences with them Right, for somebody who really values communication in a partnership, right, that that's also a value that they want and you want that value.
Speaker 1:It takes time to see. Like, is that person actually practicing that value, right? Like, have they taken time to communicate how they feel with me and have I also if that's a core value in my life been able to communicate in a healthy way? Like I think it's also really important that if you have core values that you're looking for in a partner, you need to put that mirror right back in your face and say am I living up to my own values? Because a lot of times we may, you know, want this person who's so amazing, but then we might not be in alignment with that as well. So I think like that's really important to like also check yourself and say like am I being an integrity with my own core values and do I, am I ready for someone at that level as well?
Speaker 2:Yeah, the embodiment of the values. You can have your list of. Here are the things that I value. But if you're not embodying those or same thing with the person that you're dating or you're in a relationship with or you're married to or whatever, if you're not and they are not embodying those values, what purpose do they really have?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And that's something that I think is really challenging when you're dating someone in the beginning is that you don't get to see how they embody those values yet, because everyone is showing their best. Someone in the beginning is that you don't get to see how they embody those values yet, because everyone is showing their best self in the beginning of a relationship. It's like, you know, I'm literally just. This is so funny. We had this when I would used to show horses when I was a kid.
Speaker 2:There's this like class called showmanship and it's like you put your horse, you know you make it so beautiful, it has like the best hair that it could have. The mane and tail, they're braided, they look perfect. You know it's like judged, like so minutely, you know, like super, super, super specific, and you come around and you, you come out and you just parade the horses around and they go in a circle and the judges come, they look around them like that is what dating is in the beginning. You are literally playing showmanship with the person that you're dating like let me you know, yeah, I might, the horse might have a bad hair day 99% of the time, but not today, you know. So like same kind of thing. Oh, I might show up as a disrespectful person, whatever 50% of the time, but I'm not going to let this girl that I'm dating in the beginning see that, right. So it's like you really have to wait to see is someone embodying these values. So let's get into it. What I want to have like a I think five like core five.
Speaker 1:Of course, there's a ton of them, but, like, growth oriented is so, so important to me, someone who is just wanting to grow in all aspects of their life in a healthy way, like whether that is growing and becoming a healthier version of yourself, like emotionally intelligent, mental, like reading to learn and become a better person, right, trying to level up in all aspects to reach your fullest potential. Growth oriented is so important and I really desire that in a relationship that we are a team and we want to grow together and I think I'm embodying that in my own life and I'm really excited to find someone else who's in that. Wait, can I say something?
Speaker 2:about that? Yeah, Because I have that as one of mine too, and I think, like there is a type of person that you could meet, a type of guy that you could meet, that is growth-oriented in their own life but is not growth-oriented when it comes to a relationship you know what I mean. Like I think that you have to have. I mean, if this is desirable to you, I think if anyone wants to be in a good relationship, you want someone who's committed to the growth, grow the relationship with you, and my husband and I still feels weird to say that do a lot of frequent relationship check-ins where we have a list of questions that we go through of what is working in our relationship, what isn't working, how can we better support each other. That we go through of like what is working in our relationship?
Speaker 2:what isn't working? How can we better support each other that we go through on a consistent basis, because you need to be committed to the growth of your relationship. Yeah and yeah, weeks go by and we don't you know two, three weeks, and oh, we were on vacations and oh, we missed it or we were busy at work. But like coming back to that, reminding each other, like we need to do these check-ins, we need to stay committed. Like we want to go do a healing event together, we want to potentially start therapy together, we want to do X, y and Z, like those conversations you need to have in your relationship so that you are contributing to that long-term sustainability.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, so important right To find a partner who also wants the most success in the relationship and I'm not talking like a financial success, like just a thriving relationship together.
Speaker 1:Like it's so important, especially when you find that person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, for them to have that dedication and commitment, that like they're going to be there and for you know they're going to be there to the end of time and working on it together.
Speaker 1:Like I think that's also the scariest thing about relationships is like nothing is forever technically, but being able to have that like verbal commitment from someone that's like I'm here, committed to the growth, is, yeah, it just means a lot. Loyalty and commitment is definitely something that's very, very valuable to me. It's something that I did not have in a past relationship and it caused a lot of problems and stress and anxiety and I just know that I want someone who's just very loyal and committed to me, like I want to be my man's number one girl, you know, and like where there's not even a thought in his mind that he would ever do something, you know, to disrespect that loyalty and commitment to me, and I know that there are so many men out there that also want that too, like having loyalty and commitment in a relationship, like that's a huge thing.
Speaker 2:Super important and I think that a lot of people don't have that and a lot of people wish that they did. And you know, life is life is complicated, there are temptations, there are all these things out there, and I think that being like that growth oriented thing that we were just talking about goes hand in hand with this of like if you do not want to be loyal and committed, this of like if you do not want to be loyal and committed why are you in a?
Speaker 2:relationship. You know you don't have to be in a relationship. Right life is you have freedom to be single. You have freedom to live whatever path that you desire to live. So really that is a value that I think is really important for people to embody especially. I mean they're all important to embody, but I think is really important for people to embody especially. I mean they're all important to embody, but I think that that's a really powerful one.
Speaker 1:We should go back and forth, so maybe you share one of your values.
Speaker 2:Okay, so one of my most important ones is deep appreciation and gratitude, and I think that that is something that I also have as a core value in my own life right outside, because I think you can have your core values in a relationship and your core values just as an individual and obviously they're a crossover but there that is definitely in both of mine to live a very appreciative, grateful life and I think that you need to have that in a relationship as well.
Speaker 2:And I see so many people that don't have this in their relationship and it breaks my heart because when you join with another person and you make a decision of we are going to walk side by side with each other for however long we are about to be in a relationship together, if you do not have the desire to be deeply appreciative and grateful for that person, it's not adding up for me. You know what I mean, like it's not adding up for me. So I think that in my mind, in my life, I expect and I demand for lack of a better word that my partner is always deeply appreciative and grateful for me and that that is a shared experience that we have in our relationship and that doesn't mean you have to give me crazy gifts and take me on crazy vacations. And I'm talking about the little things, the life things, right, I'm appreciative that you showed up in this way to support me and also, within that deep appreciation and gratitude, expressing that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Expressing that in a healthy, safe, communicative way that we are able to receive that from each other. So it creates this just synergy of love between two people.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think a lot of people can get in that pattern of, oh you know, I've dated this person or I've been married to this person for five years, and then the little things go unnoticed and, you know, maybe that person is intentionally trying to make their partner feel loved or feel special and it's just going unnoticed. And so I think that having check ins, like you're saying, and being really intentional about like this is my life partner, like every day, this is my partner and I want to be the best partner possible and show them love and show them gratitude. I think I love that that value so much, because who doesn't love a little gratitude? I think it also plays into the love languages, right, words of affirmation. So how, if your partner is, um, you know, really feels love from words of affirmation, how are little ways in the day that you can just give them a little something to make them feel good, right, just like give more love, less hate, more love.
Speaker 1:Yes, um, one for me is like funny and playful.
Speaker 1:I really really just love having that energy and like keeping things light and joking around and yeah, that's like definitely a big thing in dating, right, but I also want that in my marriage, my relationship, to like joke around and have fun and not take things so seriously and like kind of like tease each other and like just make each other laugh.
Speaker 1:Like my mom and my stepdad. Like my stepdad always is cracking jokes and my mom's always laughing at him and she's always like isn't dave so funny? And it's like they're always laughing and like that's also like my sister and randy. Like randy is literally hilarious, brie's hilarious, like they're just seeing that in my life actually is a really big blessing and it always has been, even with my dad of like playfulness and being funny. It just keeps things lighthearted and I feel like it like creates that like flirtiness and like romance in a relationship. So like I'm realizing that's so, so important to me to have somebody who's like that and that's not just a front, like that, that is just like a core value of theirs is like that they can bring that like playfulness to life and not be so serious all the time.
Speaker 2:I love that so much. This is definitely one of mine as well and it's one of the biggest reasons that I fell in love with Reza is because he is so playful and silly and he brought out this side in me that you know I obviously have side in me that you know I obviously have but it brought out just in a deeper way, that fun, playful, silly, childlike side of me. And I think life is so serious sometimes, you know, and you need someone that is going to break up the seriousness with you by making things fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So that's that's required. That's absolutely a non-negotiable baby. That's we got to have that, we got to have that, we got to have fun.
Speaker 1:I'll just say this for the pod Like I love watching you and Reza. It's just like it literally brings tears to my eyes because you guys are so cute, like, just like how, like I do like see like your inner child, like even at your wedding, and you guys are just holding each other, like, and just the way he's so like, gentle and soft with you and then, like you, it immediately transports you into your soft, feminine, like goddess energy and it's just like it's so playful and loving and I love to witness you guys in that connection thank you.
Speaker 2:I appreciate that so much and I think that that feeds into, like one of my other most important values, which is emotional security, which is the whole reason that I'm able to have that experience and that I'm able to activate my feminine energy and that I'm able to feel safe all the time, because I feel like this deep sense of emotional security with our relationship that I didn't always feel, obviously in the beginning of our relationship and I never felt with any other man before in my life.
Speaker 2:I think that was something that I always lacked in every relationship that I was in was a firm sense of emotional security Like this person is not going to leave me. This person values my safety in an emotional sense, values my safety in an emotional sense, and they are actively trying to create a stable emotional environment for me and our relationship at all times. That is another one that people probably don't have on their list because, like it's just not like top of mind, you know, but if you don't have emotional security in that stable environment, I don't think that you can really express yourself to your true authenticity in your relationship because you're not sure how it's going to be received, and a lot of people stay in relationships like that for 20 years and then they get divorced and they're like I literally was never myself in this relationship and it's because you never felt comfortable enough to be the true expression of yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think that there's a big thing when it comes to feeling safe in a partnership, and it takes two people right who have an agreement that they're going to create a safe space. Like, if someone wants to feel like secure in the relationship and they want to express something vulnerably, how will that person create space for them in order to open up and how can they trust that they're not going to run away, that they're not going to, you know, pull back, that they're not going to make fun of them for their vulnerable emotions? Like I feel like there's just like these different agreements and relationships, that, like it's, you need to find someone who's down with your agreements, the things that you want to have, that relationship that can flourish.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes. And if you are listening to this right now and maybe you're feeling like I don't feel like I can find the person that has common values to me, because I feel like I have a lot of friends that feel this way right now, I feel like there's a lot of women in the collective that feel this way right now that they are not going to be able to find their partner that is going to embody the values in the way that they do, I just want to remind you of divine timing and let you know that it is possible for you to find someone who embodies the values that you embody and wants to live the life that you desire to live as well, and you don't have to settle for something that doesn't feel good to you to just be in a relationship like other people are.
Speaker 1:So I really just want to drop that towards the end to all the ladies out there and I want to say, yeah, stand firm in the values that are the end to all the ladies out there and I want to say, yeah, stand firm in the values that are really important to you and don't settle for someone who is not living in the values that you want to live, because it will cause problems down the road and cause pain down the road. So wait, wait it out. I love that you said divine timing. Wait until that you find that right person who can show up for you in the ways that you want to be seen and supported and loved, because he is out there waiting for you to walk along and find him.
Speaker 2:Um, yes, okay, he is, he is. Thank you so much for listening. Before we go, we just want to drop something to you. If you are feeling like you need a little bit of extra support on your journey right now, especially related to relationships and self-worth and really being able to heal wounds or self-doubt, fears, limiting beliefs that have been holding you back in relationships, in career, in personal development, in whatever area of your life that you're feeling like you need a little extra love in and focus in.
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