Mindfully Moody | Highest Self, Manifestation, Dating Advice & Feminine Energy
Welcome to Mindfully Moody, a transformative space where self-discovery, spiritual exploration, and personal growth come together. We, Hannah Andersen and Sara Swanson, are best friends navigating our spiritual journeys and authentically sharing our experiences along the way. Our podcast was born from our shared love of life’s flow—the highs, the lows, and the magic found in between. We’re here to inspire you to live a more conscious, fulfilled, and aligned life.
Podcast Topics we cover:
How to become your highest self
How to live an aligned life
How to date intentionally
How to quit your job
Spiritual Awakening
How to be in your feminine energy
How to manifest
At Mindfully Moody, we dive deep into powerful topics like self-love, healing past wounds, and embracing your true, authentic self. We explore all things spirituality, from manifestation to energy work, and how to tap into your divine feminine energy for a more balanced life. Each episode is crafted to provide real-life stories and tools that resonate with our listeners, designed to help you in your journey to self-growth and empowerment.
We explore how to create meaningful relationships, from dating and romantic connections to friendships that nourish your soul. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term partnership, our discussions on relationships focus on aligning your values, discovering true freedom within yourself, and finding love that supports your highest self. We know from experience that dating can be challenging in today’s world, but it can also be a powerful tool for growth and self-discovery. Join us as we talk about navigating the complexities of modern dating, learning to listen to your intuition, and finding a relationship that truly aligns with your life’s purpose.
Living an aligned life means finding true freedom within yourself and embracing the things that bring you the most joy, peace, and fulfillment. We share stories of how we broke free from limiting beliefs, self-doubt, and toxic relationships, and found freedom in building the life we desire. You’ll hear our personal transformations, from overcoming childhood trauma and navigating divorce to creating thriving businesses aligned with our passions.
We also dive into mindfulness practices that guide us in living fully in the present moment, helping you create a life that feels authentic to your soul. Topics like mindfulness, meditation, journaling, and breathwork offer powerful tools for healing and reconnecting with your inner wisdom. These practices are key to creating emotional resilience and aligning with your true desires.
If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by the pressures of life, career, and relationships, this podcast is your guide to realigning with your purpose and reclaiming your power. We explore ways to overcome burnout, manage stress, and achieve harmony between your personal and professional life. For the female entrepreneurs and creatives, we offer insights into balancing your masculine and feminine energy so you can achieve success without sacrificing your well-being.
Our episodes are infused with practical advice and tangible action steps, helping you make small shifts that lead to big changes in your life. We’re here to support you in your journey of personal transformation, offering our experiences as a roadmap for you to live a life that is more intentional, fulfilled, and joyful.
We release new episodes every Monday morning, so start your week with us as we dive into the soul-nourishing work of self-discovery, love, and transformation.
With light and love,
Hannah & Sara
Mindfully Moody | Highest Self, Manifestation, Dating Advice & Feminine Energy
134: Dating Advice For Women You NEED to Hear
Here is some HOT dating advice for women. Unleash your inner dating pro with this episode of Mindfully Moody! Hosts Hannah and Sara, are tackling the questions women everywhere are asking. Feeling hesitant about intimacy? We'll provide clear communication tips to politely decline sex with confidence. Stuck in a confusing situationship? Learn the signs it's time to DTR (define the relationship) and discover how to handle a cheating situationship with strength and grace. And to top it off, we'll settle the never-ending debate: who pays the bill on a date?
By the end of this episode, you'll be a dating master! You'll be able to:
- Communicate Your Needs Effectively: Learn how to express your desires and boundaries clearly, avoiding confusion and ensuring your dating life aligns with your values.
- Set Healthy Boundaries: Discover the importance of boundaries in fostering healthy relationships, and gain the tools to confidently establish them from the start. This dating advice with help you tap into your WORTH.
- Navigate the Exclusive Dating Maze: Dating advice BIG QUESTION: Wondering if it's time to "go official"? We'll reveal the telltale signs that indicate you're ready to take the plunge into exclusivity.
- Deal with Situationship Shenanigans: Situationships can get messy, especially when it comes to cheating. Learn how to handle a cheating situationship with maturity and self-respect.
- Embrace the Dating Bill Debate: We'll break down the etiquette of splitting the bill on a date, so you can approach the situation with confidence, regardless of your preference.
Ready to transform your dating life? Subscribe to Mindfully Moody for weekly guidance on attracting high-quality partners, building strong connections, and embodying your fullest self with confidence!
xoxo, Sara & Hannah
Chapters -
00:00 - Men disrespect women by flirting, showing disrespect
00:24 - Subscribe to Mindfully Moody on Spotify
00:59 - Mindfully Moody welcomes new listeners, launches course, advice for single women
04:24 - Confrontation Dont be pressured to hook up
07:15 - Girl anxious about dinner bill
07:37 - Tips for handling money on dates
09:24 - Men should not take women on uncomfortable dates
10:10 - Split the bill, not demand payment
12:54 - When is a good time to become exclusive with someone?
13:15 - Exclusive Different from boyfriend and girlfriend
13:33 - Dating should progress, but exclusivity should be discussed
18:04 - Austins lack of exclusivity in dating
19:17 - Communication style, union, learning lessons
20:23 - Discussing boyfriends and values
22:33 - Situation ship exclusive, flirting, disrespect
When a man shows you who he is, believe him and when he is out with you flirting with other girls, that is just plain disrespect to you. Even if you're out together, and he is blatantly doing that, he does not respect you and he most likely never will.
Speaker 2:What is up? Mindfully Moody girlies and guys, because we're seeing that we actually have some male listeners. So what's up? Welcome back to another episode of your favorite podcast with your favorite podcasters, your spiritual besties, sarah and Hannah. If you are not subscribed to Mindfully Moody on Apple, on Spotify, go subscribe now. That is the best way for you to get notified about our newest episodes. We drop brand new episodes every single Monday, so you have all week to vibe with us, catch up with us and get your weekly dose of healing, spirituality and growth content. So, with that said, also, go check out past episodes episodes.
Speaker 2:If you have not listened to mindfully moody before or you're a new listener, we welcome you into the mindfully moody club and follow us on social media for just our methods, our formulas on how we have healed Ourself. We have arrived to a place of living our dream lives as entrepreneurs, as women embodied in their purpose. We give you all of our tips and techniques on how we got here. So one more thing before we get into the episode. We just launched our premier course the journey from self-doubt to self-love in 30 days. This course is so incredible y'all.
Speaker 2:This course includes our formula on how Hannah and I got to where we are right now through a 30-day method of taking you through exercises, actions, journal prompts, all different things. We have in-depth videos where we go in-depth on different things, like how your subconscious mind is formed, how we have used all of these practices in our daily lives to get to where we are at a place of self-love. So that course is available right now for 50% off, so get it while it lasts. It is in our show notes as well, and Hannah hit us with it. What are we talking about? This is going to be a good one, y'all. If you are single dating, listen up, sisters, because we got some good stuff for you.
Speaker 1:Grab your tea, grab your popcorn. Single girlies, listen up, because we're getting in the tea. Okay, we know it's like a Sahara desert out there. It's hard to find your man. The men ain't menning. The dates are struggling. We're sick of it. So we called out to our mindfully moody girlies and we said what are your burning questions when it comes to dating? And we are going to choose a few of the questions that you guys wrote in to us and we're going to give you our advice. All right, we've been through the ringer once or twice, or a few more times than that, so we have learned lots of lessons when it comes to dating. And our girl, sarah, is married, so she can now come from a perspective of a wifey, all right. And me I'm just in the trenches, learning lots of lessons. So we got some good advice for you today. So the first girly that wrote in asked this what do I say to a guy if I don't want to hook up?
Speaker 1:Hmm, hmm, like let's run it back to hook up Mm, mm, like let's run it back to, let's say let's say it's like, okay, maybe it's like the first, first through third date. If you don't want to hook up, own that girly, absolutely.
Speaker 2:I feel like this is tricky because, as women, we sometimes feel really easily pressured and especially like, okay, let's say you go into the date, right, and you're like I know, I don't want to hook up with this guy and I'm looking for, you know, my future partner and I just don't want to do anything casual. Then you get on the date, the chemistry is vibing.
Speaker 1:You're like oh, he cute, he's in a cute outfit and he's 6'4".
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, and maybe you've got two drinks in you and you're like should I reconsider? Think about the no of the earlier version of you that was saying like, no, I don't want to hook up. So I feel like, if a guy asks you to hook up or is pressuring you to hook up and you don't want to just be straightforward and this is something that I wish that I did in my earlier life, because I head back to the last episode y'all, where I talked about how I struggled to say no, okay in relationships and in my life in general, and that that was because I had a low sense of self-worth, so I wouldn't be straightforward Even if I didn't want to hook up. I would like play the game, you know, I would like try to flirt my way out of not hooking up, or I would just like honestly fold and do something that I didn't want to do because I felt pressured to do it, which do not do that, Do not do that.
Speaker 2:So I think you just need to be super straightforward and just say no, I'm good, I'm going home, that's not what I want to do. You don't even have to use the language that we're pressured to use I'm not ready. I'm not. No, just no. This is. This is not what I want to do, so I think straightforward is the way to go. What do you think?
Speaker 1:I like that. I like the idea of coming to a decision before you go on the date. Like I'm sure a lot of people have this idea, whatever like I'm sure a lot of people have this idea, whatever, some people hook up on the first date, some people wait till the fifth date, like if you have this idea in your head of like when you are going to be ready but you're not ready yet, like own that, like be in that energy and commit to that. Like no, I feel like it's too soon to sleep with someone on the third date, like I'm not going to do that. And if he tries to pressure me, I can kindly say like no, I'm not like ready for that. I don't know you. I literally met you like two dates ago, you know. So I think, just committing to what feels right to you and then owning that, being confident in it, and if they don't respect that, you don't want them anyway. Boy bye.
Speaker 2:Yeah, also like. Can we just translate that into like actually being an ick, like I wish that was an ick for past version of me like if you own your boundary and you say, no, I don't want to hook up, I'm not interested in hooking up at this point, and they're like, oh, like they're trying to keep pressuring you, like that isn't guys I mean ladies that is a red flag, okay, because that is a man that is not respecting your boundaries, and if he won't respect your boundaries in the early part of the relationship, he probably never will. So tap into that.
Speaker 1:Ok. This next girl he wrote in. She said I always feel so uncomfortable when the bill comes. I'm going on a fourth date with a guy and he asked me to dinner and I'm already so anxious about how to act when the bill comes. I'm going on a fourth date with a guy and he asked me to dinner and I'm already so anxious about how to act when the bill comes. What should I do?
Speaker 1:Okay, I got to let you start on this one, because you're good at this, Okay, Okay, so what I would do when the bill comes, I would the waiter's coming over. He's handing over the bill to the table. Like I want you to just place your hands on your lap, take a deep breath.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Smile at the guy and then say do you want help with that? And if he says yes, he wants help with that, just get up and leave. Or you could say do you want to split it? Question mark with a little smile and a little shoulder, and then of course, he's going to say no, like he's of course going to say no, I don't want to help split it. No, I don't need help with it. Oh, you need help with it.
Speaker 2:I love that phrasing. That is amazing. Don't need help with it. Oh, you need help. I love that phrasing. That is amazing. Do you need help with that? Oh, I love that. They're like um, what, what are you trying?
Speaker 1:to say you think I'm broke careful, what would you, would you?
Speaker 2:do I agree. I mean, I think that, like it does matter, like what date you're on at this point. I think it also matters, like how old you are, okay, so, like, if we're like running it back to, like you know you're dating and you're 22 and you're each working, like you're in college, working minimum wage jobs, like maybe this is like a different answer, you know what I mean. But, like, we are more in this like embodiment of like, okay, late twenties to thirties, like early mid thirties, like you know, you're going out with someone and you're dating with intentions of finding a partner. Okay, um, and I firmly feel like men should not take women on dates that they feel uncomfortable paying for. Like, don't take me on a fourth date when you are in the courting phase. That is a $200 dinner If you want me to split the bill 100% Like they're the ones driving the conversation.
Speaker 1:It's like you. You get to decide. If you bring me to dinner, we can also go to coffee. I mean, there are some high maintenance girls that are like I'm only going to dinner If he's going to take me to a coffee, which I'm not like that type of girl. But yeah, I mean, if you invite me to dinner, you should pay for the dinner. Do low-key, feel bad for guys like I've been going on a lot of dates and these men be forking out the money, hey.
Speaker 2:I mean, not me feeling bad. Yeah, get rid of that shit. Um, I feel like I love what you said, though it's like whatever phrasing you want to say is up to you, you know. Do you want help with that? Do you want to split the bill? I mean, I certainly wouldn't do what sometimes. I mean, I was pretty good about this when I was dating but, like, sometimes I would get this overwhelming desire to just like literally like be, like I'll pay, you know, like, like before it's even like on the table. It's like ladies, we don't need to rush you. You know, there's like this very big anxious energy that comes with, like, the idea of the bill. Like, for example, if you and I are out to dinner, hannah, we're not like like someone grabbed the bill really quick.
Speaker 2:It's like you can just drop the bill at the table and like we'll pay it when we pay it you know what I? Mean, but when you're on a date, it's like you literally need to take action immediately.
Speaker 1:I know, I know like why is that? You know anyway, because there's all of this stigma around it, like friend, friends like you know, I'm gonna memo you exactly and. But it's also, like you know, even if we're splitting it.
Speaker 2:It's also like, you know, even if we're splitting it, it's not like we don't need to like demand that we acknowledge that the second that the bill hits on the table. It's like, I think, that if you are a woman that is trying to be embodied in her divine feminine, that means that you are in a receiving mode. That doesn't mean that you have to be the type of woman that never pays a bill or never splits a meal with a man or takes a man you know, treats a man to like dinner or coffee or whatever. Because I'm I don't think that it's wrong to pay for things. As a woman, like, and I am in a relationship where, like I mean at this point, we're married, everything's the same, but, like that, we've been splitting bills for years. I don't need, I was never that person that needs to be taken care of by a man.
Speaker 2:However, I think that, like, when you are out and you are in that kind of situation and you're trying to be in your feminine, like, that is a moment when, like, sit back and receive, like, if he is the divine masculine that you are desiring, if he needs to split the bill with you, then say it. Tell me that you need, you want to split the bill? Yeah, literally, because you are supposed to be the leader of this. Why? Why is the woman the one that has to be like? Do you want to split the bill? Totally?
Speaker 1:totally, I agree.
Speaker 2:Totally, I agree. Yep, get into that receiving mode. That's my advice. I love it.
Speaker 1:Okay, next question we have here when is a good time to become exclusive with a person that you're dating, and then when is a good time to put labels on it like boyfriend and girlfriend?
Speaker 2:yeah, this is a tricky one. Okay, I want to first ask a question to you, like what does it mean to you?
Speaker 1:to be exclusive. We gotta break, and how?
Speaker 2:is that different from being boyfriend and girlfriend?
Speaker 1:Let me break down the dating cycle for you all today. Welcome to my TED Talk. Okay, so one you're dating, right, you're going on dates, you're having fun, you're getting to know each other, you're keeping things light. You know it's all good, things are fun, okay, but I think at some point with time, if you're consistently dating someone right, maybe, like the first month, you're going and seeing them once a week. Right, maybe the second month, like maybe you start to see them twice a week it's getting a little bit more serious, right? Dating should progress. Like this. I feel like if you really like someone, it should get a little bit more frequent, right, the stakes get a little bit higher.
Speaker 1:And then I feel like at some point it comes to a point in the dating experience where you're like, okay, I actually don't want to see anyone else. Like, do you want to see anyone else? And I feel like this could happen depending on, like you know your connection and stuff. But like I don't know, from like two to three months or something, where you're you claim that you want to be exclusive with this person, which to me means you're only dating each other. Like you're not, you're not seeing other people, you've deleted the apps, like you're just focusing your energy on this person and he's doing the same for you, and like now you're actively building to eventually go into to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
Speaker 1:This is what I think. So I feel like up until you have this exclusivity conversation where you're only dating each other, that you are good to like go on other dates and stuff. But I feel like there has to come to a point like otherwise you're gonna get stuck in that situation, ship cycle and like that is a dangerous zone to be in. So for me, I feel like people should be exclusive, at least by like three months. Right, what?
Speaker 2:do you think yeah, I agree. I think that, like the idea of exclusivity, you need to know if it's like a step towards being in a relationship, being in a committed, monogamous, loyal relationship you, before you agree, like, okay, I'm going to be exclusive with this person. I feel like you need to understand that they are the type of person that you do see being in that role for you, whatever those qualities are that you desire, right, and I think that that's why people shouldn't rush into exclusivity. And I feel like, yes, there are relationships that succeed, of course, that like start really quick, hot and heavy and, like you know, it's like a matter of weeks that they're like we're in a you know, we're boyfriend, girlfriend and we're in love and these things, but more often than not, like that, that fizzles out, you know. So I feel like, if you are with someone and you're like, okay, like I'm starting to really like I really like this person, you know, like they have similar values than me, they have similar lifestyle than me, like they want the same things as me, yeah, and you're starting to be in that place where, yeah, you like stop really thinking about other people and you're just thinking about this person and like, yeah, that's a good time to be exclusive.
Speaker 2:But I think that it's really interesting, like energetically, to think about exclusivity too, because it's like if you commit to exclusivity too quick, you are blocking out any other potential energy that could come into your life, another potential partner that could be more aligned for you than the person that you're dating. So, like, I've been more of like the you don't need to be exclusive right away. You know, like date around, like I was always dating a lot of people at once, honestly. So that was just how what I liked and what I feel like worked for me in my younger life. So, yeah, but if you're not exclusive by like a yeah, month three, like what's going on, right, it's like okay, you, you don't really like each other.
Speaker 1:I feel like then, like if you're spent, like we don't really have time to waste. So it's like you, you kind of know, like okay, am I vibing with this person? Do I like them, do I want to get to know them, do I want to spend more time with them, like no-transcript, you know, experience them at a different level, and I feel like that's when, like then, you kind of start working your way to like that boyfriend title. Damn, I'm sure a lot of people don't even get to exclusivity these days because dating is just, especially in Austin, like I hear horror dating stories, like all of my friends are like having struggles with the dating situation. But I'm curious about what you think, because I've kind of changed my mind a little bit on this perspective. Obviously it depends on the person, depends on the situation. But when do you think that it would be a good time to become a boyfriend and girlfriend? That's marriage. If I'm getting a boyfriend.
Speaker 2:I'm marrying that man, I know I mean. It totally depends on where you are at in your life stage.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Because now I feel like if I'm telling you, like, with what I know that you want in your life, like it's literally like, do not make a guy your boyfriend. I'm like six months, like you gotta know this person. You have to know, like, who are they like? Who is their family? Like, where did they come from? What are their beliefs? Like? How do they treat you in stressful times? What kind of values do they have? Like, how do you argue together? What's your communication style? Like? What are your love languages? How? Like? There are so many things to me that you need to know about someone before literally, because it's like sure, there's just a title of boyfriend. But in my mind, like you are entering a union with a person. It is not like divine union, marriage level, but you are entering a union, you are coupling with another energy and if you don't really know that person inside and out, I don't know. I feel like there's just I don't really understand why you would couple with them.
Speaker 1:then yeah, and I do feel like this is coming from a very intentional dating perspective. Of course, if you are a younger girly listening to this episode and you're in your 20s whatever you're in college, you're having fun maybe this specific advice isn't for you, because it's like you also have to date and find out what you like and what you don't like and learn lessons along the way, which we both had to do, unfortunately, sometimes the hard way. So you have a know, you have a college fling. Whatever he's your boyfriend, you date him for a year, you move on, you're going to learn something that he wasn't up to par to what you wanted and you're going to break up and you're going to date someone else Sorry to say most likely, but I agree.
Speaker 1:It's like that is a boyfriend, is like a big commitment when you are intentionally dating, to marry. So you got to know the ins and outs of the person. You got to know how they tick. You got to know what their triggers are, because if we're going to be spending time together, honey, we got to. We got to vibe. If you're my man, I got to trust you in front of my friends. Yeah, you better not be making me look stupid honey.
Speaker 2:I just can't Triggers making me look stupid honey. I just yeah, I just can't imagine like you being like this is my boyfriend to me, like you're gonna introduce someone to me that is your boyfriend without you like having such a depth of like oh, I'm marrying him knowledge and experiences together, not only like, because, let's be real, men lie.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's be so for real. Right now, men lie and they often fabricate stories about themselves or whatever, how they are in a relationship. And then you get in a relationship with them and you realize that's not how they are at all. Actually, they're really different than what they said, that they were going gonna be so. Until you get to like experience, the truth of that you don't really know. So, yeah, I feel like it's definitely an individual thing, but do not rush into making a man your boyfriend like, yeah, do not rush it, take it from me.
Speaker 1:Really get to know him his values. Values are very important episode coming to on why my marriage failed in divorce because of values not aligning it's serious values are so, so important in order to have a long lasting relationship. Okay, that was a good one. Um, let's see what other questions. Do you see any that you want to rate on your list.
Speaker 2:All right, final hot burning relationship question. What do I do? Because I found out that my situation ship is seeing other women and is flirting with other women in front of me. Girl Bro, girl Girl, you already know what we're going to say about this one. Okay, first of all, why?
Speaker 1:do you have a?
Speaker 2:situationship Exactly when you clearly want to be exclusive, because if you didn't want to be exclusive, you wouldn't care that he was seeing other women although flirting with other women in front of you. Like to?
Speaker 2:me situationship, relationship, whatever, like please, no, that is such an ick and why are you not turned off by that? So we're just giving you some hard-hitting now. But yeah, this is, this is not the vibe. So there's two ways that you can approach this. If you are like, okay, this, this is it, this pushed me over the edge, like you need to ditch him. But if you are like younger version of me and attached to this person who you are dating, who's your situation, chip, and you can't leave him, you need to sit down and you need to. Who's your situationship and you can't leave him. You need to sit down and you need to have a serious conversation with this man. Why are you in a situationship? We don't have the information of how long it's been, so we don't know that Could have just been a few months, but why are you in this situationship and do either one of you want this to move forward into a more serious relationship?
Speaker 1:yeah, and I'll say when a man shows you who he is, believe him, and when he is out with you flirting with other girls, that is just plain disrespect to you, even if you're out together and he is blatantly doing that, he does not respect you and he most likely never will. So leave before you get in a further situation ship with him six months down the road and he's still doing the same shit, texting girls on Instagram. Right, because that's going to happen. So you can approach it in a loving way way. But like your intuition knows, girl, you're like this situation ships out here messing around you know the answer.
Speaker 2:I'm actually really triggered as I'm thinking about this, because I have experienced this like many times, actually many times but one specific time I experienced this my college situationship that lasted freaking years and I literally showed up to meet him at a bar one time and like he invited me to said bar and he was there with a group of people and like one of the people that were there was like a girl that he was like kind of also talking to.
Speaker 1:Oh, hell no.
Speaker 2:And her and I literally got in like a huge fight. No, you were like brawling Did you punch her. No, it didn't get physical, but it got extremely close. It got extremely close.
Speaker 1:Sarah used to be wild. Sarah used to be wild back in the day. Maybe I should go in, okay.
Speaker 2:Ladies, if you want me to tell my most crazy, wild dating stories from my past, let me know Stories with men from my past, because that is definitely the most wild stories that I have. But yeah, guess what? I literally still stayed with the guy. So who am I to talk?
Speaker 1:But hey, and if anyone is like resonating with that specific write-in, like you need to go and listen to our past episodes, because a lot of times when we were in that situation, sarah, we were not valuing ourselves right, like we were just desperate for that male energy and like now we would never tolerate that type of behavior. So there's just a little self-love lesson in that story. So, girlies, don't let your situationship ruin your life, okay that was fun.
Speaker 2:I like this. That was fun. I love it. That was nice. Write in with more questions. We're going to be maybe we'll make this a little bit of like a more consistent format because it lets us just, you know, be fun and answer your questions and engage with you. And, yeah, we love that because this is a community, this is a group of women that come together to support each other.
Speaker 1:So, send us a message on Instagram at Mindfully Moody if you want us to answer any questions we got you.
Speaker 2:Yes, thank you so much for listening to this episode. Reminder, if you don't subscribe to us, subscribe now, leave us a review. We would love that and appreciate it so greatly. And if you are listening to this episode and you're like, yeah, I am having issues with dating, I'm having issues showing up authentically, I'm having issues accepting things from men that I know that I deserve more, then our course is for you, sisters Journey from Self-Doubt to Self-Love in 30 Days. Go to the link in our show notes for 50% off, and we love you so much. Thank you for listening. Love you, Bye.
