How To Stop Escaping Emotions: Honoring the High and Low Moments

Welcome aboard our emotional odyssey, where the peaks and valleys of our inner landscape become the map we explore together. As Hannah guides you through her personal voyage, she unearths the art of riding the wave of emotions, sharing moments of sheer elation in Guatemala and the subsequent lows of post-celebration Miami. Let's normalize the full palette of our feelings, acknowledging that authenticity and a robust support system are our true north in this journey.

Transforming a regular Sunday into a sanctuary of solace, I immerse myself in the rites of self-care, inviting you to draw inspiration from my birthday reflections and the quest for balance in the vibrant city of Austin. As we grapple with societal constructs like 'Peter Pan syndrome' and the significance of age, I shed light on the timeless dance of the spirit, untethered by the numbers that claim to define us. This episode is your permission slip to indulge in life's simple pleasures while honoring the soul's longing for growth and connection.

We round out our expedition by embracing the less sunny terrains of our emotional world, confronting the societal timelines that cast shadows on our paths. This is a heartfelt affirmation to honor every hue of our emotional spectrum, acknowledging the transformative power of facing life's challenges head-on. Together, we celebrate gratitude for the journey, the love that binds us, and the courage to live authentically. So join us, share your voice, and let's revel in the vast tapestry of experiences that weave the fabric of our existence.


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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

Hello, what's up and welcome back to Mindfully Moody. It's Hannah and I am here coming at you with a solo episode as I was thinking about what topic I wanted to talk about today. I was coming at you with this episode about like, how to make your dreams come to life, which was super like on my heart last week. And then now I just show up and I'm like I don't even feel like I want to talk about that. I feel like I kind of just want to shoot the shit and like kind of just like, walk you guys through what I've been going through. I am currently in my luteal phase. So, girls who track their cycle, you know what it's like and this is the whole thing about being mindfully moody. You know, as you are in your luteal phase, you're aware that your hormones are probably going crazy and, like you know, you're having some feelings of maybe negativity or feeling sad, or feeling anxious, right, feeling up and down. That's the whole thing with mindfully moody. It's like we are going to have emotions, we're going to feel highs, we're going to feel lows, but if we can always return back to the mindful moments and just mindfulness in general and being aware that those feelings are there and there's parts of us that maybe are feeling sad, or parts of us that are maybe feeling anxious or like whatever it might be. It almost like lessens that state of you feeling that, like sadness or that anxiousness or whatever. This morning it's Easter Sunday, so by the time you're listening to this, easter will be past, but my friends have a monthly review and it was just so beautiful to be able to show up in my friend group and be like, yeah, I'm not really feeling it today, like I'm feeling a little bit sad, I'm feeling like a little anxious about life, like you know, like I'm not where I'm supposed to be kind of thing and to have friends that like celebrate that and they're like hell, yeah, like good for you for like owning it and like speaking what you're feeling, rather than coming on with a mask right.

Speaker 1: 2:17

A lot of times we try to just show up in different circles that we're in like everything's perfectly fine or we're good, or just pushing things under the table, and it's like by me being able to own how I'm feeling, all of the emotions, the entire range of the emotions. I'm honoring myself in those moments and then I'm also giving myself the opportunity to get support from other people and also normalizing that. It's not normal to be on 100% of the time. One of my friends was like you know, it's just funny seeing things in person versus like Instagram. Like they are so different. Like Instagram totally is the highlight reel. He's like your Instagram was thriving and it's like, yeah, because I'm posting like when those moments when I'm feeling like super high or super excited or super energized or super inspired, and then it's like online, right, we're not showing as much of like the reality of the situation. Like, damn, you know, even though I have this highlight reel on Instagram, it's like sometimes I do feel sad, sometimes I do feel anxious, and that's fine, that's part of the human experience.

Speaker 1: 3:28

This last month I had so many highs. I went to Guatemala on a seven-day retreat, then we had Sarah's bachelorette party in Miami, which was so much fun, like just being with all the girls from San Francisco and like celebrating Sarah and like all of the love. Like I had a lot of highs this month and I think you know, with the highs do come lows, because it's like I was very energized off of like going and doing all this exciting stuff and then now I'm kind of like at that tail end, like I can't hold that highness all the time and I am learning to accept that and love that. Like life is filled with ups and downs, highs and lows. Like right, where sometimes we're literally like on top of the world, like all the clients are coming in, maybe we're getting a promotion at work, maybe we're making new friendships or going on these amazing dates you know we're whatever getting new opportunities, we're making new connections.

Speaker 1: 4:27

Like we're feeling on going on trips, like we're feeling so high and then it the life like sometimes life slows down and it's like, okay, maybe I haven't been on my routines and now I'm not feeling as good as I usually do. Or, damn, I'm not feeling like the clients coming in at this moment. So like, if you can just imagine, I'm like waving up and down, like the highs are so beautiful but there's also room to appreciate the lows as well, like I mean I'm not like depressed or sad, like super sad or anything, but I can tell that there are lower vibe emotions happening at this moment in time, because I am in my luteal phase and I just had a super high month in March and I'm okay with that. Like I'm okay with having some low, like low vibe emotions for a moment in time. And that's why I wanted to make this episode just to normalize like it's okay to not feel on 100% of the time, and I don't think that's realistic to feel on and feel like 100% happy, like one all the time. Of course, like I mean, maybe that's the goal right. Like I do desire to feel happy, happy and energized and excited and all of that, but without the low feelings we probably wouldn't be recognizing and appreciating all of the high moments.

Speaker 1: 6:01

This is just like a reminder of like, wherever you are right now, right, if you are feeling sad, if you're feeling happy, if you're feeling just okay, if you're feeling normal, like welcoming in all levels of emotion, and if you are having a hard day or a sad day, if you're feeling like you know you've been in this state of feeling down for a couple of days like remembering that you have practices that you have learned. I mean, if you listen to this podcast, like, you know that we are always sharing tools that you could use when you are feeling in those moments of feeling a little bit lower, to like, return back to yourself and give yourself love, like everything always does, truly come back to like love, back to yourself and give yourself love, like everything always does. Truly come back to like love. So, when you are whether like you're in your luteal phase, or maybe you're like going through a breakup, or you're having struggles with your family, or maybe you lost your job or your business isn't going as expected like remembering that you can always return back to the practices that bring you back home to yourself. For me, like what I'm about to do, like because I'm feeling like I'm low energy and I'm like it's about to be a new week, like I want to lift myself up, I want to do things that are going to, like you know, make me feel like in a more like just balanced state, closer to my heart, like I'm about to embark on a little self-care journey.

Speaker 1: 7:32

On this Sunday it's 545 and I'm about to. After this podcast, I'm going to get a bath going. Okay, I'm going to put a little bath bomb in it. I'm going to romanticize my life. This is how I get my energy back up and back in my vibe, even though it's okay if I want to stay in that sadness or stay in that low energy feeling, I can stay there, but I also am choosing to take this moment to nurture myself. So I'm about to get the bath going and maybe this is some inspiration for you. Okay, and maybe this is some inspiration for you and I, as the bath is going, I'm going to take my nail polish off my toes because your girl needs a fresh mani, and then my toes are gonna soak as I'm in the bath. I'm gonna get a bath bomb, I'm gonna get some salt, I'm gonna get some like lavender oil. Maybe I'll put on like a cute little like podcast or something. Or maybe just listen to some like spiritual music and just like a vibe out. Maybe like meditate in the bath, do some breath work, like just chill, reflect, practice, gratitude. It is Easter Sunday. There are so many things to be grateful for in life. So maybe like practicing reflection and just really like enjoy that, like be in my feminine, like enjoy the senses that I'm experiencing in the bath.

Speaker 1: 8:50

And then I'm going to make an amazing dinner. I'm going to make a burger. I'm going to have some sweet potatoes, some broccoli. I'm going to meal prep for the week and get like my week super prepped and prepared. And just to make it easy on myself, make things a little bit easier on me this coming week. And then you know what I'm going to do. I'm going to cozy up, I'm going to make a nice glass of tea and I'm going to watch, like, oh, you know what I'm going to watch. I'm going to watch Avatar, like the newest one. I don't know where I'm going to find that, but I'm going to watch Avatar because, like, I just love that movie, just like, like, even though it's like, actually there's some like hard parts of that movie. Avatar just makes me, yeah, makes my heart sing. So I'm probably gonna watch some Avatar and just chill out, relax and give myself some loving, some nurturing.

Speaker 1: 9:41

And because it's been crazy, it's been a crazy few weeks and now I'm just going back into this nesting settling mode, I think for me, when I go, go, go, I notice this about myself. I was going so much in March and I just cannot believe that April is already here, my birthday month. April, it's Aries season. Baby, we're about to be entering. Maybe we are in Aries season. We are in Aries season, okay, hello, aries season. What is good? We are back and I just want the month of April to be effortless, to be flowy, for me, to be in my feminine, but also for me to like get some shit done. Like in March, as I was gone for so long, I felt like I wasn't like as quote-unquote productive because I was really in my fun era, even though I got made so many things, like progressed on so many things. But I feel like April is going to be like the fun month, but also like locking down, like getting like some things going in my business, like making some new connections and dating girls.

Speaker 1: 10:45

I need to tell you about the dating experiences. We've been going through some serious dating era this year and it has been super fun. That also brings in highs and lows, when you are constantly like going out with people, meeting new connections, making new you know relationships with people, and then and then you're like oh, I like this person, I don't like this person. This person's interesting, it's like a whole world when they're there. We need to be like mindfully moody dating episode or something, because girls, the dating scene is serious.

Speaker 1: 11:21

Austin dating scene also is like interesting, because I feel like of course, there are people who want to settle down, but then I feel like there are a lot of like Peter Pan syndrome situations that like people don't want to settle down, like people are like it's a young city, it's a fun city. There's so many like different types of people, so many options that it's like I feel I'm finding that like there also aren't there. There's that like group of guys that like they just want to like stay on the dating scene and like continue to date other girls, which is amazing for them. I love that for them. But I noticed that a lot of girlfriends that I talked to are like experiencing this. So I'm wondering, like are people experiencing this in other cities? Wherever you're listening from, I know, san Francisco is the same.

Speaker 1: 12:12

I think that's kind of like that dating energy in a lot of big cities when people are focused on their careers, people are focusing on business, right, and like the Peter Pan syndrome, people don't want to grow up. I mean, right, it's a fun city, austin is a fun city. People don't want to grow up. I mean, right, it's a fun city, austin is a fun city. I don't really want to grow up either. This episode is literally going to be all over the place and like I don't even care, because sometimes the episodes just need to flow like this, along the same lines of going not wanting to grow up. It's so weird, you guys.

Speaker 1: 12:45

I'm about to turn 32 and I feel so young still. I feel like a kid. The way I'm playing, the way I'm experiencing life, the way I see life, things that me and my friends do, I feel like I'm 24. Energetically, I feel like I'm 24. I mean I'm super mature. I think I mean I have my own business. I'm super mature, I think. Right, I mean like I have my own business.

Speaker 1: 13:06

I'm like emotionally intelligent, like all of these things, but like I feel like in my heart, like I do feel like a kid still of like wanting to go have fun and like do cool things and like I guess that's not, like I don't need to put an age on that right and maybe that's society. Like society says that you have to be like serious and like have a family and like have kids and like focus on that era of your life when you're in your 30s, but like nobody says that like you know you should still continue to have fun. Like as you get older, like they just focus more on like business, career and family, but like I think prioritizing fun and like finding that stuff that lays you up and brings you joy. Your entire life is so important. So I'm also doing a lot of reflecting as I come into my birthday month and, yeah, a lot of emotions again come up with that, with like the highs and the lows, like amazing, like I love that I'm gonna be getting one year added to the calendar.

Speaker 1: 14:10

I'm trying to watch what I say because I'm like I'm not trying to tell my energy. I'm aging energetically. I'm getting younger by the years anyways. Um, it's interesting. I like getting older quote-unquote because it's like I become more wise, I become more successful. I become more wise, I become more successful, I become more myself, which is such a beautiful thing. But then inside of me, right, the duality, the highs and the lows. It's like we have these highs of amazing things with aging and getting older and having a birthday and like getting more experience.

Speaker 1: 14:43

But then, with that, on the flip side of the coin, it's like this fear of not being where I desire to be, right, at this age, or like not being married yet or not having children yet, right, it's like this like internal clock thing, that like you thing that we all know about the internal clock for women. So then there's that fear that sets in of when I think about turning one year older, like okay, but I'm going to be this age and now I'm not at this point yet. So I'm going to do my best to not have that comparison, comparison of like where I think I or I thought I would have been at this age, rather than just really focus on the good that comes from this birthday right, and like all of the blessings that I've experienced in the last year and like the excitement of what is about to come in this next new year and like this is just such a lesson of like everything in life, every single thing in life, can have highs and can have lows, and it matters how we perceive that thing. I have been huge in the sense of like refing situations. Even when I am having sad days like this, I'm in the car, I'm driving, I'm like, yeah, I'm feeling a little anxious or I'm feeling a little sad today, like the highs of March are over. I try to reframe it. Yes, it's beautiful to sit in that sadness, sit in that anxiousness sometimes, but if you don't want to sit in that that sadness, sit in that anxiousness sometimes. But if you don't want to sit in that, I'm like such a advocate for reframing your situation.

Speaker 1: 16:35

I was even driving in the car, I was going to the dog park today and I was like, okay, I'm noticing that I'm, I'm feeling this, I'm experiencing this and it's like and that's beautiful, because by me experiencing these levels, this level of emotion, this is pulling me out and getting me actually to the space that I want to be in, because it's having me reflect on things in my life that maybe I was doing or partaking in or whatever in general, that maybe weren't serving me to my highest ability, right, that weren't. Maybe I was doing things that weren't connected to my high self. So, because I'm in this current state, it's showing me something, and I see this as a reflection, as a lesson of that I have the ability to make different choices, to make myself feel better, to, you know, lift myself up to do whatever it is that's going to get me out of the state, into a state that I actually desire to be in. Of course, we all want to feel good. If you could feel happy 100% of the time, would you? Yeah, I'm sure that's what we're striving for, but the goal isn't to escape the sad emotions or escape the hard feelings like right to do anything to get out of those feelings. It's more to accept those feelings that they're there and appreciate them and see them what they're trying to show you, trying to show you Like I truly want to like fall in love with the low vibe emotions, because they're always there to teach us a lesson, right, if we're feeling, I mean shit, like when I was feeling some of my most anxious and my most depressed moments, the reframe there, like and I'm talking about about almost two years ago, when I was in my corporate job and I literally felt like I was in jail and I just needed to get out Interesting, it was probably during this time, two years ago too. Back to the reframe. I am now so grateful for those emotions, you guys, I'm so grateful for those emotions because they showed me what I did not want to experience and what that pushed me out of that state. I was like I'm feeling these things and I know that there is something better out there for me. I know that I no longer did a desire to feel these feelings. So what am I going to do about it? And I quit my job. I freed myself from the anxious thoughts. I freed myself from the constant not feeling good. And if I wasn't having those feelings, well, who knows, who knows if it would have pushed me and catapulted me into where I am today, with almost having my own business for two years.

Speaker 1: 19:30

So I think there's such beauty in these quote-unquote low vibe emotions because it teaches us so much about ourselves. Like, luckily for me, luckily for me I experienced a lot, y'all, like growing up and like in my early twenties, like in terms of like devastation and like, and in terms of like really hard things. So maybe people can't relate to this because I'm just talking about more like normal highs and lows, not like going through a really really hard situation, like losing a parent or some family member, having a sickness, or like extreme devastations, like that, like I'm. If you are experiencing something like that, like this conversation probably isn't as relevant to you, because if I was listening to this when I was going through devastating times, like in my younger years, I'd probably say, like this is kind of some bullshit. Like I'm going to this. When I was going through devastating times, like in my younger years, I'd probably say, like this is kind of some bullshit, like I'm going to be sad, I'm going to be angry, all these things. But even those times like that sadness that I felt taught me something and like not everything needs to be a lesson, but, like, if there are like feelings that are repeating and you feel yourself resisting to emotions, it's going to get harder and it's going to get more challenging.

Speaker 1: 20:52

So, when we lessen the resistance to the emotions that we're feeling and we like almost just go like an insider and say, like let me try to understand these emotions. Where are they coming from? Why are they showing up? What are they trying to teach me? It like loosens, it Like. Think about, like, if you have a knot in your back, it's like if you just continue to ignore that knot in your back, like it's going to get larger. Right, if you're like continuing just like workout and continuing to like be hard on your body and like just ignore the knot In your back, it's just going to get larger and larger and be more painful. But if you have a knot in your back and you decide that you're going to like work it out and like Nurture it and like touch it and like give it some attention, that knot is going to be worked out and you're going to feel freer. Damn, I'm like loving this analogy right now.

Speaker 1: 21:48

But that's the same with emotions. You know what I mean. Like how can we love the low parts of us, the sad parts of us, the anxious parts of us, nurture them, become closer to them, try to understand where they're coming from to them, try to understand where they're coming from, work them out right so we can be free from them? If there's low vibe, like emotions that are constantly coming, how can you become familiar with it? Like, imagine it as a part of you, like a little part of you, a little angry, you know, hannah, or a little anxious Hannah over there. It's like what does she need right now? What? Why is little Hannah feeling anxious right now?

Speaker 1: 22:25

I don't know if you guys are familiar with parts work. Parts work is like a form of therapy, but it's like identifying different parts of you, right, just because I'm anxious, that, like I as a whole am not anxious, that is just one part of me. I also am super happy. I also am super energetic. I'm also like super loving, right, I'm also sad. Sometimes, I'm also whatever, by not fully associating and saying like I am sad and that is me right. No, like that is just a part of me that I'm currently experiencing right now. But that is not me. Okay, you guys are picking up what I'm laying down.

Speaker 1: 23:06

It's just like I wanted to make this episode just for people who may be feeling highs, maybe feeling lows, and just being able to love the experience of the range of emotions that we experience as human beings, because each of those things on the journey are teaching us something about ourselves, teaching us something about our life, and there's so much to love about this journey of life, even when there are like lows and when there are highs, like yeah, we can just always be grateful about the life that we live and that we are alive. It's just like a blessing in itself to even be here talking on the podcast I have a podcast with my best friend like to have this apartment, speak in this mic and like talk on this computer, like there's always so, so, so much to be grateful for. So remember that if you are feeling low, if you're feeling sad, like you are an incredible human filled with so much power and so much love, and I hope you remember that and see that every single day because you are so special. Okay, I'm getting all emotional over here, so I'm going to end this episode. I love you guys so much. I love you guys so much.

Speaker 1: 24:24

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